Cheaters and Crazy Makers, Husband or wife cheating? What to watch out for

Why do I attract liars or cheaters?
Look at yourself, do you deserve this? Is this a lesson? Are you one of them? Do you feel guilty about something? If this is true, then maybe do some community services or charity work. Give of yourself so you can forgive you.

Beware of people that accuse you of cheating on them or lying to them. They are looking in their own mirror and accusing themselves, and they are the cheaters and liars. Watch a liar. They always look up at the ceiling, or close their eyes when they are lying to you.

Why do I attract alcoholics and bad boys/bad women?
It all goes back to being a kid; did one of your parents have addictions or hidden parts of their personality? Do you like drama? Chemistry lasts about 3 years with the bad boy/woman, then it is all over, and usually not in a good way (Read the Soul Mate page.) Do you drink too much? They all have low self esteem, do you? Are you just fooling yourself into thinking you can fix them?

To all you people that attract the wrong people and may move in with them right away, or cosign or co-mingle your credit with things like cell phones and leases - please tivo these shows below for one month, you will learn from their mistakes:
Judge Alex
Cheaters
Peoples Court
Divorce Court
Judge David Young
Judge Judy
Wife Swap
Super Nanny

It takes 5 years to really know someone when you date them. Anyone who tries to move in with you too quickly is afraid you might get to know the real them and you will dump them, so they move in fast before you throw them out. Beware of fast movers! Never marry anyone for at least 3 years.

Habitual Liars:
Simply put, there is no cure for this, and they can get around psychics because they actually believe the crap they are spewing! If someone you are with lies a lot, especially about stupid stuff, just move on. Run now, because they are the type to go to prostitutes, strip clubs, cheat on you, take drugs, gamble, have two wives, do not trust them EVER!

Narcissism:
Are you dating/married or working with a person with these traits?
Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms include:

Believing that you're better than others.
Fantasizing about power, success, and attractiveness.
Exaggerating your achievements or talents.
Expecting constant praise and admiration.
Believing that you're special; more than anyone.
Failing to recognize other people's emotions and feelings.
Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans.
Taking advantage of others.
Lacks empathy for anyone and anyone else’s needs.
Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior.
Being jealous of others.
Believing that others are jealous of you.
Trouble keeping healthy relationships.
Setting unrealistic goals.
Being easily hurt and rejected.
Having a fragile self-esteem, but has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements.)
Will be preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love (they date, and date, and date.)
Truly believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions.)
Requires and demands excessive admiration.
Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment, or automatic compliance with his or her expectations.
Is often envious of others, or believes that others are envious of him or her.
Shows arrogant, haughty, behaviors or attitudes.
Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional; Jealousy and possessiveness.
Excessive need to feel special, adored, loved, appreciated, or admired.
Rage attacks when you do not sufficiently meet his/her needs
Controlling behaviors (trying to control how you spend your time, who you talk to, how you dress, etc.)
Inflated self-esteem, or grandiosity (bragging, "fishing" for compliments.)
Dramatic, insecure behaviors.
Expecting you to take responsibility for making him/her feel better about him/herself.
Blaming you for behaviors or feelings (i.e., "YOU made me do this," or "YOU made me feel this way.")
Not taking responsibility for angry behavior, and justifying angry outbursts.
An attitude that demonstrates "the world revolves around me" and "you need to cater to my ideas, opinions, thoughts, and feelings."
An unwillingness to reflect on his/her own behaviors.
Will pretend to want to change, go to therapists/psychics/astrologers, weight loss clinics, and they will ask questions about how they can improve their lives – yet they do not mean it. Easier to blame their Mom, or the last relationship they were in.

Here are some more signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder to look out for:
Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it's not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don't value themselves more than they value others.

When you have narcissistic personality disorder, you may come across as conceited, boastful or pretentious. You often monopolize conversations. You may belittle or look down on people you perceive as inferior. You may have a sense of entitlement. And when you don't receive the special treatment to which you feel entitled, you may become very impatient or angry. You may also seek out others you think have the same special talents, power and qualities — people you see as equals. You may insist on having "the best" of everything — the best car, athletic club, medical care or social circles, for instance.

But underneath all this grandiosity often lies a very fragile self-esteem. You have trouble handling anything that may be perceived as criticism. You may have a sense of secret shame and humiliation. And in order to make yourself feel better, you may react with rage or contempt and efforts to belittle the other person to make yourself appear better.

Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, need for admiration, extreme self-involvement, and lack of empathy for others. Individuals with this disorder are usually arrogantly self-assured and confident. They expect to be noticed as superior. Many highly successful individuals might be considered narcissistic. However, this disorder is only diagnosed when these behaviors become persistent and very disabling or distressing.

Complications of being with someone with this disorder:
Vulnerability in self-esteem makes individuals with this disorder very sensitive to criticism or defeat. Although they may not show it outwardly, criticism may haunt these individuals these individuals and may leave them feeling humiliated, degraded, hollow, and empty. They may react with disdain, rage, or defiant counterattack. Many serial killers have this trait.

Their social life is often impaired due to problems derived from entitlement, the need for admiration, and the relative disregard for the sensitivities of others. Though their excessive ambition and confidence may lead to high achievement; performance may be disrupted due to intolerance of criticism or defeat.

Sometimes vocational functioning can be very low, reflecting an unwillingness to take a risk in competitive or other situations in which defeat is possible. Individuals with this disorder have special difficulties adjusting to growing old and losing their former superiority? If you are with this person, you may want to move on with your life alone.

I hope you learned something here, and that I helped to clear some issues up for you. If you are with a Crazy Maker, or you always seem to end up with one, I can help you break this pattern. Contact Tonya Now to set up your session.